Table of Contents Introduction ....... 6 Chapter 1 ............. 9 Vision Vs Execution .............. 9 What is the difference? ....... 9 The effort threshold ........... 11 Defining vision ................. 12 Defining execution ........... 14 Bringing the two together ..15 Chapter 2 .......... 19 Execution without Intention ................. 19 Why Good Strategies Fail . 19 The problem of under communicating ................. 20 Lack of team involvement 22 Poor decision making ....... 24 Hiring the wrong people ... 25 Insufficient data or overly complex plans ............ 26 Chapter 3 .......... 30 Strategic Execution Part 1 ... 30 The Planning Phase .......... 30 1. Strategy planning ........ 31 2. Set clear goals ............. 33 3. Communication .......... 35 Chapter 4 .......... 40 Strategic Execution Part 2 ... 40 The Action Phase ................ 40 4. Tracking progress ....... 40 Measuring progress in business ......... 43 5. Accountability ............. 45 Chapter 5 .......... 49 How to Set Powerful Goals the S.M.A.R.T Way ....... 49 Setting S.M.A.R.T goals .... 52 Specific ........... 53 Measurable ..... 53 Attainable ....... 54 Relevant- ........ 54 Time based ..... 55 Chapter 6 .......... 57 The Importance of Performance Coaching .............. 57 What is the GROW coaching model? . 59 Goals ............... 61 Reality ............. 62 Options ........... 62 Will ................. 63 Applying the GROW model to businesses ............ 64 Chapter 7 ........... 68 Why People Fail To Reach Their Goals .. 68 Stop making excuses ........ 69 Give your goal some meaning ............ 70 Stop trying your hand at everything ... 72 Lacking a plan and commitment ........ 73 Not having a deadline ....... 73 Giving up halfway ............. 74 Chapter 8 .......... 77 Overcoming the Fear of Failure ............ 77 What is failure? ................ 78 How not to be afraid of failure ........... 79 Analyze all potential outcomes ........... 79 Take action ..... 81 Get away for a while ......... 82 Conclusion ........ 84 Sample Content Preview Defining execution If vision defines your goals then execution gets you to those goals. The success of any individual or business organization relies on its potential to convert a plan into reality. People who follow through putting their plan into action with a solid strategy often achieve those goals. Businesses that take on a logical and disciplined approach to doing things use many different techniques to convert their ideas into outcomes. A word of caution- Execution is never perfect from the start so be ready to face obstacles along the way. No matter how solid your idea may sound to you, you need to realize that the path to getting that idea executed and achieving results will be a constant work in progress. There really is no way that you or anyone else on your team can know from the get-go what the end result will look like. Your part in all of this is to make sure that actions are continuous and that change is welcome rather than spending time in the planning phases. Some common pitfalls to avoid (especially in business scenarios) along the way can include the following: - Spending too long on the planning phase - Wanting to implement all phases at once - Making money a priority in the project, and not the project itself - Allowing personal emotions to keep others from helping - Acting alone and not consulting with the team Bringing the two together Any successful entrepreneur will tell you that ideas are worthless without execution. Anyone who has ever attained their goals will also tell you the same. That is why the two need to be brought together so that results get produced. However, there is an entire process from vision to execution which we will look at very briefly here and in greater detail elsewhere. Step by step is the way to go. In essence, vision is only the big idea behind every good or great plan. What it needs for it to have an effect is a strategy, by which it can be implemented. Now strategy is what you will follow to achieve that big idea. By comparison, vision is a where and what while strategy is a how. Both vision and strategy are indispensable and missing either leaves you without direction and the capability to manage effectively. Once you have a vision and strategy in place, the next step is communicating your idea and implementation plan to others. It is only when the plan is communicated to others that it can be effectively followed and executed. This holds true wherever a team is involved. You may be a gym teacher, a health guru, a motivational speaker or a businessman, you need to communicate your ideas well. Once your vision has been communicated to others, it is time to take some action. And it is not only you that needs to act alone, but everyone on the team needs to do so too. Let’s say that everyone involved in a project decides to act. So what’s next? This is important as it involves going back and reviewing whatever you have done so far. Successful individuals and organizations keep a close tab on the progress being made and how much work still remains. So, reviewing not only helps you with assessing progress but also charting the way forward. It also ties in to accountability where you not only hold yourself but also your co-workers, colleagues, students or employees accountable to your vision and the actions that anyone has taken to get there. Accountability also paves the way for corrective action, if required. If you can get through all these guidelines, then you have successfully executed your vision and no longer have an execution problem. However, the process is not as basic or simple as described here. After all, this entire book is dedicated to the power of execution so there’s a lot more to come.

Sample Content Preview Guided Meditation: Healing Assume a comfortable position. Shut your eyes as you start relax. Take in a deep breath, now breathe out, emptying your lungs entirely. And once again. Take full deep breaths, never strained or rushed. Breathe in strength, breathe out tension. Carry on to relax. Take full deep breaths. Allow your breathing to discover its own natural, unhurried pace. And as ideas enter your mind, allow them go without attachment. As you sink into comfort and relaxation, see yourself enjoying a waterfall of sunlight and crystal water. As the sun and water cascade over your body you absorb the healing oxygen carried inside your blood vessels though your whole system. The oxygen heals and releases the holding contraction of each muscle. Every muscle becomes taffy… soft and pliable. All tension gives way to easiness. The cascade of sunlight reminds you of the source of all energy. Your whole being sings with release and renewal as the source refuels and strengthens your body and spirit.

Sample Content Preview Driving meditation, also called mindful driving, is a totally different animal. Many types of meditation simply ask you to be mindful of your present experience. This means open your mind and all of your senses to everything that is going on around you. Doesn't this sound like the perfect recipe for safe driving? How many hours a day or a week do you spend behind the wheel of your car? Instead of considering this as wasted, stressful time, why not use it as a chance to practice mindfulness? Notice that this practice is called "mindful driving", and not road rage, judgmental driving or revenge driving. Being totally aware of everything that is going on around you while you drive is going to mean that you definitely see poor driving habits by other drivers. When you practice mindfulness, whether driving or seated comfortably in your living room, you become aware of your current experience.

Table of Contents Foreword Chapter 1: Can You Be Addicted To Sugar Chapter 2: Keep Track Chapter 3: Eat Regularly Chapter 4: Additional Steps Chapter 5: Sugar Cravings Wrapping Up Sample Content Preview Chapter 2: Keep Track Synopsis This step is keeping a food journal. In this journal you put down: The times you eat/drink What you eat/drink The way you feel physically The way you feel emotionally. Track It How come even do this? It helps you plug in with your body. You'll determine what your body needs, how particular foods affect you, that if you do "A," then "B" will occur. The food journal helps you to see advancement over time. As you wean yourself off sugar, you might see healthier food selections, less fluctuating eating times, and more favorable emotions. Looking back on the food diary may be an encouragement in that sense. You might be astonished to see how far you have come. This step is hard for a few people. It's thought-provoking to work out and face what we're feeling. We may feel guilty putting down everything we've consumed. It's in reality pretty astonishing how much of ourselves we have tied up in food! All the same the food journal in this particular plan is not about good or bad. There's no judgment demanded. You are merely recording data as objectively as possible in order to help you determine connections between what you consume and how you feel. It's all about learning so you are able to arrive at favorable adjustments that result in bettered health. The journal presents your body a voice. Your body doesn't give a computer printout to tell you what's going on with it; all the same it presents you clues in the form of symptoms that hint at the greater picture. These symptoms will be uniform and predictable. You simply have to learn to read them. I believe this is an intriguing way of utilizing a food journal. I've never done anything like it previously, and I'm curious to give it a try. I can't state that I'm going to love journaling what I eat or even remember to do it on a steady basis. All the same that's why I'm going about all this really slowly. Chapter 3: Eat Regularly Synopsis This step calls for: Consuming 3 meals a day Eating at regular intervals Eating sufficient protein. Change Your Habits Why simply 3 meals and not little meals throughout the day? For sugar addicts, stopping a meal may be hard. Having 3 meals a day trains the body to begin and, more significantly, end a meal. It's simple to turn those little meals into a whole day of ceaseless grazing and snacking. That's not inevitably because the sugar sensitive person is ungoverned. No, brain chemistry might be more to blame in that instance. A real sugar addict is thought to have the short end of the stick when it comes to brain chemicals like serotonin and beta endorphin levels. These neurotransmitters help you have greater impulse control and the power to pass up sweets, among additional things. Sugar sensitive people might have depressed levels of these chemicals. Consuming 3 meals a day likewise teaches urge control, which may be hard for a sugar addict, particularly in regards to confections. You are able to still consume sweets on this step; simply move them to a prescribed mealtime. As a matter of fact, moving sweets to meals lessens sugar's effect. Having sugar following eating protein, instead of eating the sweet by itself, will decrease that crazy sugar high and subsequent awful crash. Exclusions to the 3 meals a day rule are those who are really active and those who are pregnant or nursing. These persons will require what is called a "planned snack" of protein and a complex carb.

Sample Content Preview Stage one: Joe bodybuilder keeps doing what he is doing mon wed fri with restpausing just like its done in the offseason and he tries his best to keep beating the logbook for as long as he can. You definitely want to stay with what got you all that muscle mass in the offseason as long as you can safely do it. Im noticing more and more that my heavest training guys like the tues (full workout), thursday (full workout) and saturday (half workout), sunday (half workout) scheme better than the mon wed fri one. I would definitely be recommending that to people like the Inhuman one and Friggin Huge who toss around slag iron like human forklifts. For various reasons its a little easier on the mind and feels like your doing only 2 superhuman workouts a week and getting alot more rest in. Stage two: Joe bodybuilder is really feeling the effects of everything and is starting to tire rapidly during workouts. So at this point he goes over to this scheme. Monday: Chest shoulders triceps Tuesday: biceps forearms backwidth backthickness Wed off Thursday: calves hams quads Friday: Chest shoulders triceps Saturday off Sunday off Monday: biceps forearms backwidth backthickness Tuesday: calves hams quads Wed off and so on and so on He keeps on rest pausing during this time. His workouts/stretching will be very very short and this will rekindle the fire somewhat. He could also do the above scheme on the Mon Wed Fri regimen but I would rather he do it the above way if he could so he could still keep on a advanced timeXbodyparts hit schedule but either way will work Stage three: This is usually anywhere from 6 to 3 weeks out from a show and all the way in --when a bodybuilder is really depleted and feels like a walking zombie. At this point for safety reasons and just severe depletion/exhaustion reasons we no longer restpause. Your not going to be gaining muscle mass the last 2 months before a show so for gods sake dont push the envelope and get a muscle tear or bad injury here trying to do something thats not going to happen anyway. At this point you stay on this scheme

Sample Content Preview 5 Surprising Benefits of Meditation You Might Not Know About The most well-known benefit of meditation is stress-relief. Different forms of meditation have been used for literally thousands of years to quickly, and sometimes instantly, relieve and remove stress and anxiety. The LiveAndDare.com website has identified 76 scientifically proven benefits of meditation. They include lowering instances of depression and reducing anxiety. Those mental benefits may seem logically linked to a practice where you calm your mind. However, some benefits of meditation may surprise you, including the following 5 beneficial effects of meditation you just might not know about. 1 – Meditation Makes the Teen Years Livable High school can be a very difficult time, not only for teenagers trying to get through it alive but for their parents as well. The teenage years can be difficult because the human body and mind are changing so rapidly. This can cause self-doubt, frustration, confusion and sometimes a sense that the whole world is "out to get" the teenager. Research from the Harvard Medical School shows that relaxation practices like meditation and deep breathing improved students' abilities to cope with hormonal mood swings, and the constant drama surrounding teen years.

Table of Contents Introduction Chapter 1: Breath Watching Meditation Explained Chapter 2: Scientific Approach In Breath Watching Meditation Chapter 3: How Breath Watching Meditation Helped Me Chapter 4: Step By Step Breath Watching Meditation Chapter 5: Experiencing The Breath Watching Meditation Sample Content Preview Breath Watching Meditation Explained It has been proved that the root of everything is energy. It may lead to a higher divine intervention or a scientific approach of physics but it won’t change the fact that energy has its own source. Buying that fact that there is the source of this energy, study shows that most of our lives, we focus on things that are outwardly. By this, a question needs to be answered – How do we realign ourselves in order for us to put attention on that energy? The only thing in the world being done to accomplish such is through meditation. Stilling the mind and calming the body. In this area, the focus is not to meditate just to reach some enlightenment or a spiritual idea that you can attain, it’s a meditation to drive your attention in your inner expression rather than allowing your focus to continually chase outward objects. Breath watching method is a very powerful technique and can be done at any given time and place. This method only provides a simple exercise through carefully observing your breath. You can do this by just sitting still and watching how you breathe. This can be done through hours, leading you to a deeper state rather than leading you to see emptiness. Placing your mind in a state of neutrality that gives you the capability to experience your outer life and your inner one as well. An excellent tip for expanding your awareness is through breathing. The more we watch you breathe naturally and manipulatively, the more you mind slows down and your body starts to calm down. Harmoniously, as you watch your breath, your mind enters the state of being still and only giving full attention to breathing and non else. In order to reach this is that, you need to consider different breathing patters and not to be able to do things or hear sounds that may interfere with you as you observe your breathing. All you have to do is witness how you breathe over and over again and try it to be more usual and as normal as possible. After observing how you breathe in and out, try now to watch the gaps in between. There you’ll be experiencing difficulties in focusing, but don’t worry, you can always start again from the beginning and try to seek out calmness in between gaps without self-condemnation. HISTORY OF BREATH WATCHING MEDITATION Breath Watching Meditation or otherwise known as Anapanasati is derived from ―sati‖ meaning mindfulness and ānāpāna that refers to inhalation and exhalation. In was said, from the books that teaches Buddhism to the schools of Tibetan Zen, that the tradition of keeping the mind and body stay calmed is through proper breathing. It is in the sensations formed from harmonious relationship between inhaling and exhaling. Anapanasati is a form of meditation that gives the central focus on traditions of Buddhism in general, since the main objective is to achieve peace of mind as well as the body. From the ancient times that this form has been using to the modern era where all are part of technology, it is still most likely to be experienced by some due to its effective way of healing. They say that the attention given to the body, or parts of it, in quietude is deeply recommended to cultivate and provide an inner expression to find stillness. It also said in the traditional meditation, this serves as a practice wherein you release yourself from tension and suffering. They say that Buddha used the same meditation to achieve enlightenment during his quest for it. A well developed concentration made to practice full absorption. A traditional method found in the books of Buddha suggests that in order to attain the balance, you need to go somewhere you can concentrate, according to the book its in a form of forest, you need to sit beneath a tree and observe your breath. You then notice how long or short your breathing takes place accordingly. When doing the Breath Watching Meditation, the meditator practices the following great things: - He then trains his mind to become more sensitive in giving attention to other parts of the body. - He also trains his mind to concentrate in a certain thing to dispose negative traits such as inconsistency and relinquishment. And; - He satisfies the mind by slowing things up. Chapter 2: Scientific Approach In Breath Watching Meditation Chemotherapy nowadays has been the ultimate recourse in the field of medicine; it has given hopes to those individuals suffering from malignancies. One of those individuals that was diagnosed with a stage 2 lymphoma was 44 year old Danilo Ramirez. He has no other choices but to take the risk of getting better through chemotherapy and radiation. He already knew what kind of treatment that is, and what side effects he will undergo. Ramirez said that it was really hard on him not just physically but more on the psychological aspect. He also mentioned that there were nights that he couldn’t sleep at all, knowing that the he had to face the treatment over and over again. This is because Danilo is also claustrophobic – a great amount of fear when it comes to small spaces. During radiation procedures, the patient needs to wear a large mask that protects that part of the body to avoid harmful effects of the radiation, with this, Danilo said that he is too claustrophobic to tolerate the radiation treatments.

Table of Contents Introduction 2 Food and Nutrition 3 Importance of food 4 Food Pyramid 4 Malnutrition 6 How the digestive system works 6 Importance of digestion 8 What’s Food Combination? 8 Dr. Hay and Food Combining 10 Food sources 11 The Nine Rules 13 Food combination Table 14 Food combination-digestion pairing 15 Food combination vs. Weight gain 16 Food combination for a youthful glow 17 Food combination to detox the body 19 Energetic with raw food combination 20 Conclusion 21 Sample Content Preview Lets us remember this word of wisdom before we begin. Food and drink are relied upon to nurture life. But if one does not know that the nature of substances may be opposed to each other, and one consumes them altogether indiscriminately, the vital organs will be thrown out of harmony and disastrous consequences will soon arise. Therefore, those who wish to nurture their lives must carefully avoid doing such damage to them. [Chia Ming, Essential Knowledge for Eating and Drinking, 1368 AD]. Food and nutrition It must not be forgotten that nutrition begins with food. The science of nutrition is related almost to everything with the body that does with food in order to function, live, heal and grow. Food is any substance, composed of carbohydrates, water, fats and/or proteins, that is either eaten or drunk by any animal, including humans, for nutrition or pleasure. Items considered food may be sourced from plants, animals or other categories such as fungus. Although many human cultures sought food items through hunting and gathering, today most cultures use farming, ranching, and fishing, with hunting, foraging and other methods of a local nature included but playing a minor role. Now foods that are eaten on a regular basis are called diet. And every single person has its own unique diet. The geographic location and family traditions play extremely major parts in the formation of a person’s diet although as the person grows, the diet may change but to a little degree. Food choices vary from people to people just as they vary with almost every living creature. We cannot make our own food out from the sun or from the wind of from the water. Our food comes from the plants, which make their food, and from animals that are pretty much like us dependent on plants. The plants, with the help of the sun, make their food form the chemicals found in water, air and soil. Animals eat their food, or feed, raw since they are equipped with specialized digestive organs, perfected through evolution to digest the food they eat. On the other hand, we humans eat both plants and animals. We like to prepare our food and in most countries, food preparation is an art that takes years to perfect. Different countries have different staple foods. Mostly in Asia, rice and corn are ever present in the table. In western countries, potato and bread are their staple food. Regardless of the difference, these staple foods are the major source of carbohydrates. Protein and milk are likewise present in the table. Only people are too busy gobbling down their food that they don’t care about the food they are eating or its nutritional value. It is vital that proteins, carbohydrate and fats are present. The function of these will be discussed in the succeeding chapters. We must never attempt to skip a meal for the sake of weight loss. The more we deprive ourselves with food, the worse our body will become. Our conditions will worsen even if physically we look great. Importance of food We cannot deny the fact that we need food in order to survive. Food and water has been the centre of our life. Humans can survive without their big houses, expensive cars and clothes but they could never survive for more than a week without any food and water. If you could observe, large parts of the third world countries suffer from malnutrition. They have food but the foods they have do not meet the daily required calories or energy of the body. Also, they do not have enough food for the day that they could only eat once or twice a day. As they say, ―you are what you eat‖. If we eat all those greasy and oily foods, we tend to become overweight or unhealthy. If we eat only sweets and caffeine, then don’t expect that we could have that perfect, healthy body we always dream. So just how important is the food?

Table of Contents Chapter 1: The Basics on Spirituality Chapter 2: Identify Where Your Spirituality Has Issues Chapter 3: Understand Oneness Chapter 4: Calming Your Mind Chapter 5: Using Mantras Chapter 6: Using Yoga Chapter 7: The Benefits of Spirituality Chapter 8: Staying Motivated for Spirituality Chapter 9: Staying on Track Chapter 10: Making Resolutions for Spirituality Sample Content Preview Chapter 2: Identify Where Your Spirituality Has Issues Synopsis Can you use your spirituality to escape from your problems in life? Yes! It is possible. If you have problems in life, it doesn’t mean that your life is meaningless. Remember that there is always a solution for every problem. You just need to search for it and learn to move forward. Where Are You Having Issues To recognize your spirituality, ask yourself if you can relate to any of the following scenarios: - Don’t want paying attention to the real-world matters – It means that you prefer to be working on your personal or spiritual development. - You prefer to mingle with people who are very spiritual – Like others, you don’t want having friends who don’t share their world view. - Prefer to have a meditating for several hours - Spend more time on how to create your vision and find it hard to accept the things here on Earth. - You are an intuitive and grasp negative stuff If you can relate to these situations or statements, it means that you are out of balance with your spirituality. To solve your problem, you need to make a right move. You have to start improving your spiritual aspects. How can you do this? Steps-by-Steps on How to Grow Your Spirituality To improve your spirituality, you have to follow several steps. Like others, you are probably not aware on about these multiple steps. For your guide, here they are: Step 1: Embrace Your Talents – It means that you have to improve your special gifts and intelligence. Your talents can lead you toward your unique paths. Just follow your passion and you can easily discover where you fit in this world. Step 2: Learn to Solve Your Problems – If you have problems in life, you have to be strong. Though problems in life affect you emotionally and mentally, it doesn’t mean that you will easily give up. You also need to learn to ignore your future problems. Step 3: Be Responsible – If you commit mistakes, don’t blame it to other people. Always be honest about the things you have done or said. You also need to concentrate on how to solve your problems than expecting changes from other people around you. Step 3: Accept Reality – This is all about love and happiness. If you love someone, you have to accept the fact that you have to say goodbye. Not all relationships last forever. To give compassion and love to the person is the most conscientious thing you can do. Step 4: Accept Change - Accepting changes is not as easy as you think. However, you can do it in a gradual way. You just need to practice yourself that a certain thing or person is no longer existing or already changed. Step 5: Accept Delays - Frustration and impatience will never help you in any situation. To combat this feeling, you have to learn on how to jump into a new field. You have to know when to wait and when to move forward. Aside from the above mentioned, another thing that you can do is to learn on how to love yourself. Your body will help you in growing your spiritual aspects. To do this, you need to pamper your body, exercise, fight your illnesses and practice a healthy lifestyle. In addition, you also need to learn to understand that human body always expires. In case you lose someone you love, you need to be strong and face the reality.

Table of Contents Introduction ................................................... 4 Chapter 1 - Overcome Doubt And Negative Thinking Now ............................... 7 Chapter 2 – The Power Of Positive Thinking ........................................... 14 Chapter 3 – Powerful Habits Which Lead To Positive Thinking................ 24 Chapter 4 – Self-Belief And Self-Confidence Can Help You Become A More Positive Person ................ 31 Chapter 5 – Surround Yourself With Positive People ......................................... 37 Chapter 6 – A Little Humor Goes A Long Way ........................................................... 44 Chapter 7 – The Health Benefits Of Positive Thinking ....................................... 51 Chapter 8 – Strive For Excellence, Not Perfection ................................................. 56 Chapter 9 – Visualization And Its Role In Your Success ................................. 62 Chapter 10 – Spread Your Positivity .......... 67 Are You Ready To Start Using The Astonishing Power Of Positive Thinking? ......................................................... 72 Sample Content Preview Doubters will doubt themselves. They‟ll doubt the people around them. They‟ll doubt everything and everyone. These people are downers. They literally make everyone around them suffer just by being near them. Does this sound like you? I sure hope not! No one wants to be around a Debbie Downer, so you definitely shouldn‟t ever want to be one! Just like most things in life, overcoming doubt and negative thinking is easier said than done. Sure, it‟s easy to utter positive words when you need to. But deep inside you know your first instinct is to say something gloomy or depressing. You need to put a stop to your destructive inner voice right now. Here are 10 powerful ways you can get started with removing negativity in your life so you can move forward and upward! 1. Let go of the past The past is gone, it‟s over. You can try all you want, but you can never turn back the clock. Look at the present without letting your past cloud your judgment. If you fail to move forward because the past is holding you back, then you seriously need to reassess your life. Whatever happened in the past has got to stay in the past. If you continue letting it affect you, then your future may not turn out to what you want it to be. 2. Learn from your mistakes One thing people often overlook is the fact that mistakes do happen. Sure, you can have the best-laid plans, but sometimes you just can‟t stop mistakes from happening. Mistakes – whether it be big or small – are bound to happen. Don‟t let it dissuade you though. Don‟t think that just because you made a mistake in the past, then you can‟t ever succeed in the same task or project. No, you have to stop thinking like that. Otherwise, you‟re just proving to your inner critic that it‟s right! 3. Stop focusing on what’s wrong Whenever a problem comes up, you probably try to find out what‟s wrong. This behavior is totally normal – how else can you fix problems if you don‟t know what caused it in the first place? But getting hung up on these mistakes – especially if you‟re the one who caused them – is just plain wrong. If you don‟t stop berating yourself, then you can‟t move forward to fix the problem. Have a little faith in yourself. A little positive pep talk will go a long way towards building your confidence! 4. Don’t go looking for other people to blame A negative person‟s first reaction to problems is to find out who made a mistake. Then they‟ll go out and attack that person privately or publicly. A positive person, on the other hand, will also try to find out who made the mistake. But, instead of focusing on the person, they‟ll use their energy to try and solve the problem at hand. When the problem‟s been solved and dealt with, then they‟ll go back to the person who made the mistake. Instead of berating them, they‟ll give some constructive feedback to help them avoid making the same error in the future. 5. Just tell yourself to STOP When you know your thoughts are spiraling into negativity, you should admonish yourself right away. This is why self-awareness is so important – you can pinpoint the exact moment your inner self-destructive twin rears its ugly head out. Once you realize where your thoughts are heading, tell yourself to stop. Take a deep breath. Go out for a walk to clear your head, or do whatever you need to do just to shut out that inner voice.